tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8540881439451499604.post4398460187081765630..comments2010-12-29T21:13:55.426-08:00Dr. Jane Nelsenhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09163509440079037626noreply@blogger.comBlogger2125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8540881439451499604.post-3146350453466367992009-03-19T20:09:00.000-07:002009-03-19T20:09:00.000-07:00I wanted to share a success story I just had with a family meeting. My three year old had developed a habit of whining that he wanted me to help him wash his hands before dinner. I didn't mind going into the bathroom with him, but I thought it was odd that he was regressing to having me wash his hands for him so I was encouraging him to do it himself. He became more recalcitrant and if I insisted on not helping him he often would get very upset - not good timing right before dinner. He claimed he was tired, which might be true, or perhaps he was just missing contact with me as I am at work all day.<BR/><BR/>After dinner we had a family meeting where I stated the problem and said that I wanted to hear everyone's idea for a solution. My son's idea was that if he got an ice cream cone he would wash his hands by himself. My husband's idea was, "when your Mom tells you to wash your hands you do it." I said, "I could do it for you, but I don't think that's a good solution."<BR/><BR/>My son repeated the ice cream idea, and suddenly I came up with an idea. I said that if he would wash his hands by himself for five days in a row we would all go get ice cream to celebrate. I realize now that that is a "rewards" style of discipline, so maybe that's not the <B>best</B> solution, but I do think we all felt good that we had sat down and talked about things together.Laurahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/06765140478993390992noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8540881439451499604.post-25828102566176774132009-03-08T11:17:00.000-07:002009-03-08T11:17:00.000-07:00If you're interested in discovering your parenting style based on the latest research, please check out the <A HREF="http://www.parenting.com/Mom/signalPatterns.jsp" REL="nofollow">Parenting Style Application</A> by Signal Patterns on Parenting.com.<BR/><BR/>The underlying model developed by our team of psychologists reveals an underlying complexity far richer than just 'strict' or 'relaxed' classifications.<BR/><BR/>And what's particularly interesting is that you can take the test for a spouse and see where potential conflicts might lie and get advice on how to deal w/them. You can also compare results to your friends'.Davidhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09745101235463361856noreply@blogger.com