Tuesday, October 13, 2009

Workshop in Spanish and Positive Discipline Network

Two-day Workshop in Spanish

First I want to share the exciting news that Laura Garcia is offering another 2-day workshop on Teaching Parenting the Positive Discipline Way in Spanish. For more information on here workshop and all the other 2-day workshops, go to www.positivediscipline.org.

When I created the Positive Discipline Social Network, I had no idea it would be so wonderful—thanks to members like Kelly Heet. Following is her comment to a mother of a 2 ½-year-old who was feeling very discouraged by her daughter’s challenging behaviors:

First off, take some time-out for yourself. When I find myself getting to my wits end, I know that I have been neglecting myself. Even just taking an hour to do something for you (with no kids) can probably work wonders.

Next, Have you read any of the Positive Discipline books? If not, I'd highly recommend it. If you are looking for some overview material, check out the PD website, and listen to the podcasts.

We've all been there (feeling like there is nothing that works, and nothing left to try...), but please give PD a chance. It has been a godsend to our family (and so many others). The #1 thing you will discover is that children WANT to feel like they belong, and that they are making a significant contribution... so helping them to find a way to do that helps to eliminate soooooo many of the problems that we all used to have with more traditional discipline methods (read: punishments).

My "top 5" useful hints from PD are:
1) What can you do to help Mommy?
2) Would you like to do (blank) or (blank)? - [Just be sure that either choice is OK with you BEFORE you offer it]
3) Would you like a hug?
4) I see that you are very upset right now... I can understand that.
5) I love you and the answer is no.

At 2 1/2, she probably does think that the "time out" game is pretty funny. When you start to look at things from the point of view of a child that young, you'll see how many of the things we do as adults must seem pretty silly to small children. : )

I tell people that I had so many "aha" moments when reading PD, that I had a red mark on my forehead for about a week (from slapping my head and saying "well of COURSE!!")

When I started using PD, I started with a routine chart for both morning and bedtime... and that alone helped cut about half of the battles I used to have with my son. Just a suggestion.

Best of luck to you!

Kelly Heet

This is just one example of the encouraging support offered by so many members of the PD Network. Thanks so much to all of you.

1 comment:

Steph said...

Thanks for the information about the PD network. I'm so excited to hear about such a site. I have 3 toddlers and would love the support. I have read your 0-3 book but still struggle with applying some of the concepts in a house w/ multiples, I'm hoping the support of the community boards will help. I so wish you had a Positive discipline for multiples book.

BTW - I recently blogged about positive discipline on my own blog (on 10/10/09)